Your need to please everyone can make you forget yourself

Who hasn’t wanted to be liked by others at least once in their life?

Think about when you are preparing for a new job interview or meeting your partner’s family for the first time, and you want to make a good impression on those who will be assessing you.

Or when you go out with the person you feel attracted to and would like to start a relationship with, and hope that they will also find you interesting and attractive.

Need to please or desire to please?

There is a difference between the two, because while desires guide us towards a state of well-being and freedom, also acting as a push to find what we need to achieve it (and then enjoy it), the latter immediately puts us into a state of need, making us feel imprisoned and obliged.

If the need in question, then, is to be liked and accepted by others, the feeling of constraint and fatigue increases considerably.

I imagine those moments when you would like to say No and instead find yourself saying Yes, or when you make others choose, so as not to be alone…

When you accept the opinions of others, even if they are light-years away from your own desires and thoughts…